I think that what I enjoy the most about my work is that it is a constant sharing that takes place. I believe that one of the best things that a human being can do in their lifetime is to share. I used to question why biblically they talked about these three characteristics: hope, faith, and charity. Songs, poems, and all kinds of stuff are being said about that. Then it also goes on to say that the greatest of these is charity. And if you had asked me that, I would say that the greatest of these is faith. I asked somebody that question today, and he said “faith,” and I said “no.” He said “hope,” and I said “no.” Then he said, “Charity is greater than all those things,” and it’s only through living life and experiencing things that you begin to realize what that does for the people or the situation that you are impacting. It also gives you something back, too, and it teaches you something about yourself and about those universal laws—things that have to do with faith.
Growing in faith has been a derivative of sharing, and the sharing part of it is something that is good. I enjoy motivating people and encouraging people. In South Africa, they gave me a Zulu name, and the Zulu name is Siphiwe, which means “the giver” or “someone who gives.” I also find joy in giving. I find joy in watching other people take a seed and run with it. Every once in a while, you get a chance to see some of those products. Our children, family, we see some of those products and sometimes even a colleague or somebody that you may have touched that you didn’t even know. And years later, they come up to you and say, “You spoke at something, and I was inspired by that and did this with that information.” And you say, “That’s remarkable!” I enjoy that part of my work. I enjoy the fact that I get a chance to travel, to learn about other cultures. It is through making comparisons that we appreciate anything. You don’t know what you have until you rub it against something else. It’s just like right and left, and up and down, and high and low, and whatever it is you can theorize about it, but to actually experience it is quite remarkable.
We don’t have time in life to experience everything, but the few things I’ve had a chance to experience have given me a different perspective. It makes me (then) freer; part of the work is being able to interact with different cultures, to travel, and to work—not just to go as a visitor, but to contribute to societies. That is, to me, a blessing. As a result of that, I grow and get more of a perspective. Therefore, now with the years of experience, when I visit people in different parts of the world, I always ask them—because they always ask me, “What did you bring us?”—“What did you bring yourself? What did you bring me?” I say, “Let’s sit at this table together, you asking me what I’m bringing to the table; I’m also going to ask you what you are bringing to the table.” Let’s say that I’m in Kampala, Uganda, and I’m meeting with some dental students. They ask me, “What did you bring?” and I say, “Well, I brought some dental supplies, some surgery instruments?” Then I ask them, “What did you bring?” and they say, “We don’t have anything,” and I say, “That’s wrong; you have a lot.”
The other thing that I bring them is a different perspective. One of the gifts that you offer to people as you gain experience is these perspectives because sometimes, those people would never have the opportunities that you have to physically travel. They may travel virtually, but that’s not the same because it’s often unrealistic. You’re not there to feel it. You can then provide them a perspective that they wouldn’t normally either have or have thought about. When you plant a different perspective in terms of someone’s thought processes, they can’t be the same. They can’t then go back and say, “No, I just thought it was going to be this one way, that I don’t have anything to bring to the table, so I always have to put my hand out and ask you Westerners what you brought to give us.” I say, “Half the time, we bring things to give you that you’re not ready to use. We come back a year later, and it’s sitting over in the grass, all rusty. It could be an idea, or it could be a piece of machinery, but you didn’t know how to use it. So, I bring you a perspective, I bring you some physical tools, but I’m also asking you what you did bring to the table. And don’t sit up here and tell me that you don’t have anything to bring to the table because if you can’t bring something to the table, then perhaps I shouldn’t be here.” And they look perplexed at you because now, you are demanding that they tell you what they’re bringing to the table.
I never forget this one incident, and it was in Kampala, Uganda. These guys said, “We don’t have anything,” and I said, “Think about it. Why do I come here? I come here because you have a different sense of freedom than I have. I need some of that because though you may not have as many material things; where I come from, we’re slave to materialism. We’re slave to consumerism. But you have less of that, so you’re a little freer in some ways than I am. I come here for your vitamin D and your sunshine because it makes me feel happier when I come here. I come here for your naturally grown, fresh food because when I’m here after four days, my body just detoxes. It just goes through a cleansing naturally. And when I replenish it, my whole thought processes, how I feel physically—I feel sexier—everything just changes from being here. In a place that maybe you just can’t see what you have until you go somewhere else and you are able to get that perspective.” That is what I enjoy.
The things that I find less enjoyable sometimes is just that a lot of the things that we want to do take time. Patience and tolerance are not always easy to come by. You have to walk through something before you can get to the other side, and sometimes, the time that I dedicate on one end, I cannot give it back on the other end. We sometimes find ourselves driven, and then that creates an imbalance, and we’re not having that balance and time to give to some of the things that are probably more important. That, I find, is the less enjoyable part. Also, the thing about time is that it’s always moving. We hear that cliche, but what I’m really trying to say is that when you are working really hard and you’ve got all these projects going on—you’re really passionate about them and you’re changing lives—we sometimes don’t realize that the people that are closest to us, the people who just want some quality time from us, we put them off. We put them off, and then they’re 15 years old, or they’re 21 years old. They’re gone, and then just like the song, they don’t have time for you. And you can’t get that back all the time. Sometimes, we really have to look for that balance. So, that’s the less enjoyable part. It’s having more balance when it comes to time, and also not being so habitual about the projects; eventually, I’m going to draw the line, but I don’t necessarily respond to what people tell me to do. I respond to what I feel is the time, so the time is coming close for me to draw the line and reinvent myself again and, in doing so, be more cognizant of how precious the remaining times are.